the more I realize WHY Social Workers are better therapists than psychologists and whatever else.
Social Workers code of ethics and training are SO MUCH BROADER. I feel like we see the bigger picture and we don’t focus on a person being disordered as much as we focus on the bigger picture of how their world/environment is impacting them and what they can do to overcome it.
Psychologists are trained to focus on every nuance, and they will point out every thing that’s wrong or that may be contributing to you feeling bad or acting impulsively and just warp it into this terrible thing (ok, i’m being biased and basing this on personal experience).
Social Workers are taught to identify your strengths first, and empower you to use your strengths to help yourself.
I mean, there’s a shitload more behind it that I can’t even get into right now (I’m so tired I literally nodded off in class tonight). All I know is I have seen various psychologists, psychiatrists, and social workers in my day and the social workers were BY FAR the best at offering concrete support and empowering me to make positive changes in my life. Psychiatrists only care about how meds are affecting you. Psychologists wanted to label me and diagnose me with the first thing that sprang to mind and then force me to do all the work on my own while I paid them to help me figure out my issues… they literally sat and nodded and asked me how things made me feel. It was some of the most unhelpful bullshit I’ve ever suffered through, and quite frankly they made me feel disempowered and broken when I know that’s not who I am.
So, long story short, if you are seeking therapy - seek out someone who is a SOCIAL WORKER!!! People seem to think that social workers are just people who help foster kids find families and make house calls to check up on at-risk families but social workers do SO MUCH MORE THAN THAT. They are trained in addressing diversity, oppression, justice, equality, and mental well-being (among other things). They work in a TON of different settings, from schools to non-profit organizations to hospitals. They work in private practice as psychotherapists or they work in organizations attempting to create social/political change. They are capable of doing a shitload of things to better this country/planet that psychologists and psychiatrists are not educated in. Never underestimate a social worker.
Wow. I want to respond to this, but I dunno if I can. Here goes a try.
I had a social worker for a very long time in NY. The mental health place diagnosed me with schizophrenia, drugged me up, and said it was true *DX* because I was getting better. I was able to do more. I could fall asleep while waiting for the bus.
Yes, I was getting better to everyone else’s eyes. I was being drugged with three different anxiety pills, and three different pain pills. The combination was making me so tired that I didn’t give a fuck about anything else.
In the meantime, I was being told that my memories, my DID part of me, everything that makes up me, was my schizophrenia, and I was making it all up.
*sighs* And this was a mental health facility in NY.
*sighs* I know that this is the exception, but still. Wanted to say my peace.
And I won’t even get into the one that re-abused me as a child.
I *know* social workers don’t normally do this, but this has been my experience. I’m working on changing my point of view.
Response to bustedsunlight: Social workers can be awesome, if you’re having a hard time and need a hand to get back on your feet, look at positivity, and get out of a rut.
Everyone gets depressed about something at some point in their life. Everyone gets anxious about things. Everyone needs someone to talk to. Everyone needs information and sound advice about general life situations now and then. This is where social workers are brilliant to turn to for help.
However, if you’re suffering from a chronic mental illness, social workers can unintentionally potentially do more harm than good. They aren’t trained in understanding the indepth problems associated with having a complex full blown chronic mental illness and the intense therapies that some such conditions require.
I’ve come across too many social workers that seem to think they’re qualified in dealing with all mental illness problems, but they aren’t. They’re qualified to provide mental health support, not therapy. There is a difference.
I would personally recommend if someone needs help with something in life, go to a social worker; but if a serious mental illness is suspected, see a doctor for a referal to the best and most suitable help they recommend. A psychologist might not necessarily be the best person, it depends on the exact condition of the individual.
“I don’t understand why the other kids at school don’t like my friends. They’re really nice kids. So what if they’re different to everyone else? That’s what I like about them. They’re not stupid.”—My eldest son. There’s no doubt he’s my mini-me.
FACT: Racism occurs all over the world. It isn't all and only about so-called “privledge”. It goes through every socio-economic class including between socio-econonic equals. No one is immune to it, it just varies according to where you are and who you’re trying to deal with. It's not a mere social problem, it's a human problem.
Does the media control the people or do the people control the media?
Despite popular belief, people control the media.
All forms of media need to make money. Without money, they can’t afford to produce the media! They do this by selling newspapers and magazines and by having high TV and radio ratings where the highest paying advertisers want their advertisements published.
If we didn’t buy their newspapers and magazines, and didn’t watch their TV programs and listen to their radio shows, they would go bankrupt. For the media to make money, they need to appeal to interests of the majority of the population.
Sure, the editors get to choose what gets published and will often deny articles and advertisements that are of genuine importance to society. The reality is, they don’t give a hoot what information is put out there so long as they can’t be sued for it and the consumer wants it enough to put their money in the pocket of the media tycoon. When an editor denies such an article, or approves a shallow meaningless one, they aren’t concerned for anything other than what people will buy, and they know full well that people won’t pay for anything they aren’t interested in. They know what the majority of the population their media is catering to is interested in. That is what they are paid to do. It’s their job to know what people will pay for.
A typical mainstream newspaper layout…
Front cover story: Some rich and famous attractive movie star has a personal scandal.
Page 3: Full continued story from front cover.
Page 10: Small article with some very basic information about a war in some far off land that most people in your country have never heard of.
Why is this? Surely the war is far more important to the world than some movie star cheating on her partner? Oh the media only tells us what they want us to know! Not true. Far from it.
Fact: People will only pay for the things that interest them.
If the newspaper printed it the other way around, with the movie star scandal as a small article on page 10 and the war in a far off unheard of land on page 1 and 3, most people would not buy the newpaper and the media wouldn’t even make back the money they spent on printing and distributing it, let alone make a profit.
A typical mainstream women’s magazine…
Front cover: Photoshopped picture of a fashion model. Sub-titles such as “How to tell if your partner is cheating on you”, “What to wear this summer”, “*famous name*’s ten best diet tips”, “How to lose weight fast and easy”, etc.
Inside: Long articles about how to loose weight, what famous people are up to, silly quizzes about how to tell this that and the other thing about other people, fashion articles featuring size 6 to 8 clothing, alternative therapies, etc. Loads of glamorous pictures of “what you too could look like” of heavily photoshopped models. One tiny little scrap of information hidden towards the back of the magazine about where to get help for health problems. Advertisements include beauty products, diets, exercise machines, fashions, and jewellery.
If the magazine only printed non-photoshopped pictures of normal women of all different cultures, shapes, and sizes; articles on genuine health issues; genuine information on where to get help for various services; articles on genuine social problems like depression, anxiety, domestic violence, sexual assault, etc; most people wouldn’t buy the magazine.
The same thing goes with typical mainstream tv news programs. They’ll give a 30 second run down of a war, spend 3 minutes talking about a famous model, and give you 15 minutes of sports. Why? Because that is what people are interested in seeing.
But what about the full story verses a heavily censored one? Surely the media is controlling what we know about events, especially regarding war, politics, religion, racism, etc?
They know that people don’t want to hear about the other side of the story. People only want to hear about what they will agree upon and approve of. Most people don’t want to know about anything that might challenge their view of the world. They don’t buy it.
During the Vietnam War, the people didn’t forget about the war and pay more attention to women’s rights, space travel, sports, etc; because the media stopped publishing about the war and instead chose to publish stuff on the other events. They didn’t ignore the heroic good deeds of soldiers and only pay attention to attrocities committed by a few soldiers. It was the other way around. The media stopped publishing things about the war because people weren’t interested anymore, they weren’t buying the papers unless they were seeing things about space travel, women’s rights, sports, etc. When they did publish something about it, it was more about the attrocities committed by soldiers than the heroic achievements because that is what people were interested in reading about.
A very recent example of how the media is influenced by the people was seen with the lead up and event of cyclone Yasi in February this year. The largest cyclone (southern hemisphere hurricane) in recorded history was heading towards major population centres in northern Queensland, Australia. While it was on it’s way, it was making international news. Almost the whole world was watching to see if Australia would be devisated by the largest storm in recorded history.
What was the result?
Yasi hit, some areas were very badly damaged, but not a single life was lost.
What happened with the media coverage?
The lead up to Yasi hitting land was covered very well. The event itself was well covered. As soon as everyone knew that no one had been killed, everyone stopped paying attention. Ratings dropped. Had a few hundred people been killed the media would have continued to cover the story because people would have been interested in hearing about it. No lives lost during the biggest storm in history is huge news, but no one was interested in that. So the media had no choice but to move onto to other topics.
If you are going to sit there and complain about photoshopped models in magazines, and why there’s not enough info on important international events but too much on what your local sports team is up to and the famous person scandal… but you still buy the magazine, the newspaper, watch the news on TV and listen to the mainstream radio shows, stop and ask yourself:
Why are you absorbing what the media is producing?
What is it that you really want to see?
What really interests you?
If you don’t like what you are seeing, why do you pay for it?
If you don’t believe this, just look around tumblr at what sort of things get a lot of notes. A factual informative blog about a health, social, or human rights concern will get a few dozen likes and reblogs. A picture of a huge jar of nutella or some thinspo pic with a short quote about being fat will get thousands.
Deployment (see also related: stomach knots and heart ache) is agonizing and often takes a toll on military families. The homecoming is what we all wait for, but when it finally arrives, sometimes a stowaway comes with it. Enter:…
This makes perfect sense. The idea of romantic love letters won’t cure or control PTSD, but it will provide the sufferer with a positive distraction; a sense of family, homeliness, safety, love, comfort, assurance and belonging - which is completely the opposite of anything that causes PTSD. It can provide a grounding; a counteraction to triggers, anxiety, flashbacks, paranoia, and depression.
An old fashioned love letter is far more effective than even the most romantic poem sent via email. It takes more care and effort to put pen to paper, which shows a heightened sense of dedication. It is handwritten, thus far more personal. It is also physical. Unlike an email or a phone call, it can be held in your hand. You can see it, smell it, hear the paper crinkle as you move it, and most importantly, feel it.
Whoever designed the fence at the front of my yard is an idiot. I got 2 ton of garden stone delivered today and thanks to the fence design there was no way it could be dumped in the front yard where it needed to be. So it had to be put in the driveway. I then had to shovel it all up and throw it all over the fence.
I’ll spread it out through the front garden tomorrow… if I can move. I’ve been rested for about an hour now and still have a blood pump with tennis balls for biceps, so I might be on light household duties and lots of stretching exercises on the things to do list tomorrow instead. Will see how I go.
Today’s lesson: when building or buying a house, make sure the fences allow you to get a vehicle into every part of your yard/s. You never know when you might need it.
My littlest man (3 yrs old) “vanished”. All was quiet in the house, I was painting the bathroom. My eldest came and asked me where the little one was. “I thought he was in the playroom with you?” Nope, apparently not. Elder son and I both look through the house, no sign of him. Call out to him, no response. Look all through the yard. No sign of him. Gates, doors and windows all closed. Where the hell could he be?
Race through house for a second look and out the back again just in case we missed seeing him wandering around in the other direction to where we were going. Suddenly eldest son also disappears.
WTF!?!?! I go outside and call out to my eldest. There’s a tap on the playroom window. He waves to me. I tilt my head and raise my eyebrows in curiosity. He smiles, points to the sofa, puts his hands together and to the side of his tilted head to indicate sleep.
I go inside and check the sofa. Sure enough the little one was there… sound asleep and so bundled up in his blanket in a misshapen heap with the corner of it covering his head (but not his face which was turned to face the back of the sofa) that we looked 3 times and missed seeing him thinking it was just his blanket piled up on the sofa in a heap.